re: safety

[TJCallahan@domain.elided]

In AD v7n741, it was written:

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Oh boy, this hits too close to home for me to pass without responding.

On soapbox ...

With my tongue only slightly in my cheek I offer that maybe finding a 
different significant other would be the easiest way to get this Alfa. 
Communication is the key to a successful relationship and I wonder if the 
necessary amount is in this one? 

I don't know the people involved, but it seems to me that there's a measure 
of personal responsibility missing from the equation. By that I mean that 
anyone interested in "safety" should first figure out what they mean by the 
term (rollover? side impact? front impact? rear impact? fuel tank impacts? 
braking ability? non-spill cup holders?). Then, they should take the 
initiative and go educate themselves in that area -- there is a huge amount 
of information available from a variety of sources, ask any librarian for 
help. If the concerns are from lack of knowledge, this research should 
address them quite nicely, thus providing a foundation on which intelligent 
conversation can be based. And, without having to appear to be (or really be) 
a pain to anyone else. If you want to know, go find out for yourself -- don't 
require that someone else "prove" it to you.

The phrase "I have encountered another snag in my quest ..." is interesting. 
Another? How many does this make? More to the point, how many are still 
unvoiced? Will there ever be an end to them? I wonder if the "concern" could 
be an emotional reaction disguised as an intellectual one? I wonder if there 
might be another, perhaps hidden, agenda?

The passive aggressive approach to dissension (which this appears to be from 
my reading) can be a killer in a relationship. "I never said 'No,' I just 
asked a question." 

I don't mean to irritate a potential Alfa nut (or anyone else, for that 
matter), but this could be pointing to a good many things that may become 
sources of significant frustration in the future.

Words of wisdom? Sure, two pieces - 

a. Make certain you and your SO are at similar intellectual levels so that 
you can actually, and honestly, converse (talk with), not just talk "at" one 
another. If not, change SO's (you'll both be happier in the long run); and

b. Buy the Alfa Spider -- there's a larger supply of potential SO's than 
there is Alfa Spiders, no matter where in the world you live.

... off soapbox

Sorry for the reaction and rant. Just one person's view point and opinion 
(and understanding that a LOT was read into that short post in v7n741).

"Dr." Tom (I'm not one, but I play one on the AD)
'63 Spider
Nineteen sixty-something Wife (for whom I would give up the spider in a 
minute, but I know her well enough to know she won't ask me to)
Seattle

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